Not Influencer Perfect

Most coaching relies on the coach appearing to be healed, wealthy…perfect. They tell stories about how I used to be like (fill in the blank), but I developed this program, and now I don’t do that anymore. If you buy my program, you can stop doing that, too. 

I fucking hate that. Life is not so black and white, and no one is perfectly healed. I think that’s why I can’t sell myself that way. Because I know that we are all works in progress and time is not truly linear, and trauma can resurface, and everything changes in an instant. There is no done. It’s all a process of learning and unlearning and loving ourselves through imperfections and perceived failings. 

Not perfectly polished. 

Not perfectly healed.

Recognizing that we are human beings on a journey who need support and community. Who need understanding and compassion… someone who gets it so they don’t feel alone. We need validation for the parts we get right, not a promise that if you dole out $1000, then you will be influencer perfect like me. 

I’m not selling false hope and cookie-cutter influencer perfection. I never will because that’s not who I am. My life is messy. It’s imperfect, and some days are an absolute struggle. But I hate myself less today than I did a year ago. I judge myself less than I did a month ago. I trust myself more than I did a week ago. Every day, I remember who I am beyond my conditioned beliefs, beyond what happened to me. Every day, I get a part back and have the opportunity to meet it and raise it with love, compassion, and respect. There are so many ways we can do this. Some days are still really hard. No one can promise you they won’t be. How we meet ourselves in the process is what matters. 

Maybe what matters more right now is community. Building safe, sustainable community in our neighborhoods, but also within. With our parts, our inner children. Having fun. Laughing together. Feeling seen and heard. Not isolating. Knowing that at least one day per week, you have people who see you and support you. It doesn’t need to be this grand therapeutic healing endeavor. Sometimes all we need is someone to see us and say hey, you’re welcome here. All of you, exactly as you are. 

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